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Time to experience great s.e.x – Get exactly what you want in the bedroom

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It’s quite the understatement to say that great communication and trust is the key to having a healthy relationship and a satisfying s.e.x life.

Some clinical psychologists even believe that these two aspects are more important than love, especially when it comes to s.e.x. But great s.e.x isn’t just about pleasing your partner, it’s also about pleasing yourself, and you’re the only one that knows what turns you on.

That’s why you first have to be open and honest with yourself about your own needs and wants. After all, if you don’t know what makes you happy, how do you expect your partner to figure it out?

Opening up to your partner about your s.e.xual desires can be really tricky, especially if you’re in a new relationship. That’s because s.e.x is an incredibly intimate activity, and it’s perfectly natural to be a bit sensitive about the subject, the last thing you want to do is hurt their feelings.

Here’s what you can do:

Get your timing right

Maybe you’re bored with the same old routine and want to try out a new position?

Maybe you want to make love harder, softer, or more often? You may even want to introduce a s.e.x toy or even a third party into your s.e.x life?

Regardless of what your request may be, your best bet is probably not to bring it up during s.e.x or even right afterwards when your partner is feeling vulnerable. Instead, wait until you’re both relaxed, comfortable, and fully clothed during dinner or while on a date.

Initiating the conversation

Unfortunately, there’s no easy, paint-by-numbers way to initiate a se-xual conversation. You can start by flirtingly saying something like: “ Babe, there’s something personal I’d like to ask you, but I’m a bit nervous…”

This type of question will evoke compassion while at the same time piquing their curiosity.

You could also take a more direct approach along the line of: “You know, I really want us to have the best s.e.x ever. What’s your favourite position?” Asking open- ended questions like these will put them at ease and allow the conversation to flow.

Once the ice is broken and you start talking openly about your se-xual needs, you’ll be surprised how easy it gets.

Coach, don’t criticise

There is a fine line between positive and negative criticism, and you are going to have to tread carefully here. You may have the best intentions, but if you just bombard them with a list of things they’re doing wrong, you’ll send them running for the hills.

A good idea would be to start with a compliment. “I really love it when you _______ , we should try _______ next time.”

People tend to respond a lot better to positive reinforcement, and the key is to keep it playful. You could also bring up something that you heard or read about somewhere, and you would really like to try.

Whatever you do, just don’t mention anything a previous partner did that drove you wild, this is always a bad idea.

Non-verbal guidance also works like a charm. Take your partner’s hand and guide it to the area you like to be touched or even better yet, just show them.

It takes two to tango

It’s also essential that once you’ve initiated the conversation, you’re open to some feedback yourself. Your partner is likely to want to try something new or different too and being open and willing to discuss their needs rather than being defensive will go a long way in establishing an open, honest line of communication.

If you can master the ability to explain to your partner what your se-xual desires are clearly, you’ll dramatically increase your chances of being se-xually satisfied. If you can get your partner to reciprocate, you’ll be having the best s.e.x of your life.

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